Recently, I found myself in a debate about which curse words were acceptable for an adult coach to use with an elementary school-aged team. Playing like sh*t? That’s ok, as long as it’s not directed at one player. Damn good job? That’s fine, it’s positive. F-bomb? No, that’s not ok with me.
I played many sports growing up—soccer, swim team, volleyball and basketball. I do not ever remember one of my coaches swearing.
The decent side of me believes that it's never ok for adults to swear in front of kids. Try as I might to keep my language clean, the occasional four-letter word will slip out. My realistic side knows that kids hear profanity every single day—on the radio, in their video games and movies. It’s typical kid behavior to use the words amongst their peers.
There is no denying that Tony Dungy was under pressure back in 2007 when he coached the Indianapolis Colts to a Super Bowl victory. He did it without ever swearing at his team. He is the exception to the rule, as we can easily read the lips of many NFL coaches and decipher their profanity. It’s not limited to the pros—it’s college-level down to 5th grade travel teams.
Kristin McCann
6:55 am on Thursday, November 17, 2011
It is completely inappropriate for a kids team. I find it a sign of weakness as a coach to have to use that kind of language for anyone under college level. I would think most of the kids don't hear that language at home and are discouraged from using it themselves, so i just don't see it as necessary.
Susan Carroll
7:20 am on Thursday, November 17, 2011
Coaches are role models. They shouldn't be swearing. They should be, and we all should be, mature enough to control our impulses. I know this makes me sound like a prude, but I don't care. Swearing is lazy and self-indulgent. And I have done it myself, so I'm owning up to it. But just because "everybody does it," it doesn't make it right. We ought to do better, and it can be done as witnessed by the coaches YOU had as a kid.
Kelly H
8:11 am on Thursday, November 17, 2011
There should be no tolerance for this at any level when dealing with children. (and adults, I would argue, but that's a different discussion.) They learn from those they are exposed to, and coaches can be more influential that other adults in the lives of kids who love their sports. Even "playing like sh*t" is inappropriate. It's not constructive in any way.
Bob LeMay
9:01 am on Thursday, November 17, 2011
As parents, we tell ourselves that we want our kids to participate in sports because it's "character building". Well, if the coaches are swearing, what kind of character are we building?
My son was on a very good Catholic 8th grade basketball team, and the other top team in our league was coached by a man who was constantly yelling at his players and the refs. While I don't believe he was actually swearing (in the Catholic league that's grounds for expulsion from the game), I told my son that, if that man coached at our school, my son would not be playing basketball for him, even if it meant playing for the 'B' team. (Happy ending: my son's team--coached by a very smart and laid back man--beat that coach's team in the championship game, at the other team's gym. For once the lesson was proved!)
Carol Kania Morency
3:32 pm on Thursday, November 17, 2011
I live near Doerhoefer and I hear swearing coaches year round. Sound carries, people!
vball7511
8:41 pm on Saturday, December 3, 2011
I play sports in highschool and I don't think that it is a bad thing. When a coach curses at the team it means WE need to work harder. I think it is acceptable for middle school and up. You need motivation and if you don't want to hear these words then we need to work harder
PAUL C.
6:14 am on Sunday, December 4, 2011
My son has played travel baseball for 2 different coaches from 11-15 years old in 2 different programs. Both managers were intense as were the coaches on these teams but never did I ever here anything remotely close to a f-bomb. His travel basketball coach for 4 years 5 while intense was our favorite. He won at at 70-75% clip without getting crazy every year! Styles differ and swearing at the middle school level in unnecessary. So far, the high school basketball coaches are intense but I have heard no profanity. Even if they don't agree with a ref's call or are upset with a player's failure to execute a play, they don't need to drop an F-bomb. I am sure these kids are seeing on FB/twitter etc enough of it and hearing it from there peers.
Kelly
4:54 pm on Thursday, December 15, 2011
High School Maybe....All other grade levels NOT ACCEPTABLE EVER!
vball7511
6:04 pm on Thursday, December 15, 2011
I have played club for years and have been sworn at never the f-bomb but if you don't want to hear those words than work harder. I think of it as motivation and not a detriment.