Lynn Hudoba: Magnificent Obsession
Finally, one of my autistic daughter’s fixations has morphed into something constructive.
High on the list of autistic traits are “narrow interests,” which can range from the fairly benign, like a nerdlinger obsession with American presidents and dinosaurs, to the mildly annoying, like Thomas the Tank Engine, to the more, shall we say, impactful, like dismantling toilets.
There is virtually no obsession too esoteric that it cannot be indulged today via the Internet, specifically sites like YouTube. We have many little friends that are into elevators, and you would be amazed at how many videos can be found of random people riding elevators … and helpfully telling you details about them. Suffice to say that if I ever find myself at the Tanglewood Mall in Roanoke, VA, I will never have to wonder if their JC Penney has a Dover hydraulic or Schindler traction elevator.
My daughter is more of an escalator gal, and at various points has also been into watching cooking and cake decorating videos, Chinese-language versions of Baby Mozart, and people jumping into pools.
I confess that I don’t always pay the strictest attention to what she’s watching. But then again I don’t really need to, because at some point it will be regurgitated back to me word for word.
Me: “How was your day?”
Her: “Seven cool tweens! Seven super-girls!”
Me: “Who are they?”
Her: “Lexie cannot do a good handstand.”
Me: “Lexie? Is that a girl from school?”
Her: “How to do a round-off back handspring!”
Me: “Does Lexie do gymnastics?”
Her: “Your feet should be close together or it doesn’t look good.”
Me: “Ugh. Enough already! Do you have any homework tonight?”
Her: *blink* *blink* “You’re not supposed to wear any baby clothes.”
Our household is full of scintillating conversations like this. Sometimes I feel like my whole life should be nominated for the “Adapted Screenplay From Another Source” Oscar.
Turns out that Lexie is one of the Seven Cool Tweens with her own YouTube channel. My interest in researching this only goes so far, so I can only tell you that they appear to choose a theme each week and then make videos of themselves around said theme. As in, “This week’s theme is garbage bag dresses!”
Gymnastics was the theme one week, and I keenly deduced that this was the source of the script when I clicked on the first video in my iPhone history and there was Lexie telling me to drop the baby clothes and get into a leotard.
But for the first time ever, these videos have become more than just fodder for our nightly home version of Whose Line Is It Anyway? Because my daughter actually began to try to teach herself some gymnastics moves from these how-to videos.
She started out with cartwheels, which seemed a little advanced for someone who still hasn’t mastered nodding. But in no time she was kicking up higher and higher and showing pretty good form. She was actually listening to instructions, placing her body where it needed to be, and putting some oomph behind her movements.
Naturally, I immediately signed her up for a gymnastics class. After trying out a class for special needs children, I decided to see if she could hang with the neurotypical kids, or nippicals as we like to call them. I signed her up for a class at the Downers Grove Rec Center, which has a ratio of two teachers to a maximum of six kids. I also requested a SEASPAR (special needs) aid for her, but she was able to roll off after the first two sessions … because my daughter rocked the hizzle fo shizzle my dizzles! That is, she did really well.
She took direction, waited her turn, tried hard, and, other than spending some quality time smelling her fingers after doing a touch-your-toes stretch, really looked pretty much like all the other girls there.
As someone who loathed gym class and cowered in the back hoping not to get called on or picked for a team, I was shocked to see my progeny raising her hand and volunteering to go first. And it wasn’t even her usual half-mast-heil-Hitler hand raise, but a real ooh-ooh-ooh-Arnold-Horshack-I-know-the-answer move.
Time will tell if this new obsession-turned-hobby will stick. It always seems like the interests that you want to stick around are just fleeting phases, while the ones that drive you around the bend never fade. Which means that by 2020, I will either be watching her medal at the XXXII Summer Olympiad, or scouring garage sales for long out-of-print Wiggles and Baby Einstein books. It really could go either way.
Becky H
7:24 am on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Aaaah! That is so wonderful! Sean was just trying to learn a cartwheel from YouTube last week, and so far, no luck. Does she travel? We need a coach. How exciting...I am smiling here.
Lynn Hudoba
3:22 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
I think Sean needs some one-on-one with my super cool tween :)
TrishWms
8:35 am on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
I love your writing, your outlook on life and the way you mother your "non-nippical" daughter! Hope to read more from you!
Lynn Hudoba
3:22 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Thanks Trish!
Jen
8:41 am on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
SO awesome!!!! I need to see some video of her rocking it at gymnastics!!!!
Lynn Hudoba
3:23 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
I've got some video that I need to post on Facebook. It took two teachers to get her flipped over the bar, so we've got a ways to go on that move.
Lived in 5 other metro areas...
8:58 am on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
That was an excellent story of just how unpredictable family life can be for so many of us. Thanks for the sharing of the story! You and your child are so lucky to have each other.
Lynn Hudoba
3:23 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
We certainly are!
Cinda K. Lester
9:08 am on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Thanks for sharing, Lynn. Congrats on the move into gymnastics.
Lynn Hudoba
3:27 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Thanks Cinda...crossing my fingers that this one sticks.
Elizabeth Kuchta
9:17 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Hurray for your little gymnast! On a related note, my son, who is very coordinated, can't nod either. What is up with that? Thanks for another great article!
Lynn Hudoba
10:13 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012
What IS up with the nodding? Her head-shake "no" is only slightly less seizure-like. I don't feel so bad knowing were in such good company :)
Jim W
8:01 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012
That's pretty awesome! What took you so long to sign her up? Interfering with Tae Kwon Do? Lily needs a good obsession. I don't think she's really doing her best to fit in with her autistic peers in that regard, although asking about happy/sad/mad emotions seem to be cycling pretty frequently in our household.
Lynn Hudoba
10:56 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Yeah, I made her stick with martial arts til the bitter end before we enrolled in gymnastics. Now every Tuesday she says "I LOVE gymnastics. I do not like martial arts." I think Lily will get there...I never thought we would. Now I need her to become obsessed with her math homework.
Jen
9:44 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012
K can't do any of that bar flipping either. The kid HATES being upside down like that. She almost took out her OT once when she tried to get her to hang like that. We have tried gymnastics many times. K always wanders away from the group and does her own, spectacularly unsafe, stuff. I wish, WISH, we had a rec center like that, which provided freaking aides...I need to move.
Lynn Hudoba
12:40 pm on Wednesday, February 8, 2012
It is an AWESOME service, honestly. We have the luxury of doing straight SN stuff through SEASPAR or the "typical" park district classes with a SEASPAR at no additional cost. The BOMB.
Colleen
11:42 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Another fun post Lynn. Thanks for sharing. We gave up on gymnastics at our house long ago. Andrew was busy but hated most of the activities. Camryn would just sit down on the mat and cry. Good times. Ha ha. Glad you found something she likes.
Lynn Hudoba
12:41 pm on Wednesday, February 8, 2012
We just went through that with martial arts. It's no fun to feel like you are forcing them to do something that they hate.
TrishWms
11:47 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012
My high-school aged cousin, whose obsession for the longest time was ceiling fans, is now a very successful member of his high school bowling team!
Lynn Hudoba
12:42 pm on Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Yeah, my daughter went through the ceiling fan thing. Not much to be gained from that hobby :) That's awesome that your cousin found something more constructive!
Libbey Paul
10:21 am on Thursday, February 9, 2012
Loved your post. I have two "nippical" daughters -- and I was happy to get such a warm welcome into your world. Keep up the great work -- your honest, funny and loving writing helps people like me have more understanding and compassion for autism.
Lynn Hudoba
7:35 pm on Thursday, February 9, 2012
Thanks so much Libbey!
Clare
8:30 am on Monday, March 12, 2012
I just found you via random stumbling around looking for help, virtual or otherwise (a fairly constant state, almost feels like a hobby these days), you've made me smile and made my day. Will be returning soon, Thanks!
Lynn Hudoba
8:41 am on Monday, March 12, 2012
Awww....thanks Clare. That makes MY day :)